I sense judgemental eyes, and I instantly yield, withdraw. I come up with a justification, an excuse for my preferences…sometimes even minimizing my own preferences, or making fun of myself to detract from others judging stares.
I’m writing this to say I’m done.
Read More Justification
You see there’s something inherently childish about judging others by our own standards. Most children take people at face value. Most children don’t have a laundry list of nefarious plots. This is why we worry about kids being wisked off the playground by grinning strangers with promises of free candy and a pool full of puppies to play with.
Read More A Question of Standards–I’m not a swinger
I lost because I allowed that person what they wanted out of that interaction: dominance–to cut me down back where they thought I belonged. To hear me give a verbal acknowledgement that I’m not as important as I think I am.
Read More The Critic We Should Never Tolerate–the Untruth Teller
I view people putting their bullying opinions out there like a flasher in the park. They run up, show you stuff that is none of your business to be seeing, for the purpose of making you feel uncomfortable. So, in my opinion, overt your eyes. Don’t be a voyeur to internet exhibitionism. They are trying to violate your boundaries.
Read More Don’t Stir the Pot: letting bad reviews die
When the elephant sees its rope, it bows to its power–to the point that even a small child could lead the behemoth around a ring, daintily, by the thin cord.
Read More Elephants and Ropes
Now, there exists a type of writer I know, (that I have been, and in my tiniest moments still am) that looks lazy in their neglect for their craft, but truly are not. This type isn’t a hack, they are just crippled with fear that they are.
Read More Who Is Minimizing You In Your Own Head?
I’ve heard the argument more than once that the fantasy worlds where sexual assault goes unpunished are just grittier than our own. It is war-time. People are living under constant threat. This is how it was in Earth’s dark history, too. While I do not argue with any of that, I would like to argue with the character development of these sexual predators. I’m not here to say we need to stop having sexual assault in fantasy. If it fits the story, write it, my brother! What I am saying is that we need to be mindful to how we treat our characters, specifically our sexual offenders in fantasy. We need to be mindful that we are being realistic, and setting the right character progressions for a person who is a sexual offender in fiction. What I’m calling into criticism is how I’ve seen some authors develop character arcs involving these characters.
Read More Justice in Fantasy: #1 Sex Offenders
I mean, in general, almost nothing bothers me in fiction, so long as the story demands it. I’m not sure if the story called for this scene, 100%, or not. I haven’t read his full novel, just that snippet. But, when it comes to issues of sexual aggression toward women, does it matter if the story calls for it? Are we, as fantasy readers, tired of this story? Should this story still be being written?
Read More Women in Fantasy: #1 A Boy and His Sex Slave
We’ve all heard it be said before, “I’m just afraid I’ll make the wrong choice!” or “What if I’m doing it all wrong!?”. If you work in the creative field, like myself, chances are you’ve even caught yourself saying/thinking this. You know what I’m talking about! Like that moment when you decide a certain character […]
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